As someone with Major Depressive Disorder, I have spent altogether too much time laying in bed, oversleeping, and sitting alone in my room staring blankly at a wall feeling empty. I’ve felt isolated and hopeless. I have experienced times I wasn’t sure how much longer I could cling to my will to live.
Over the years, I’ve had to learn how to find my own motivation. In the past, I’ve been told plenty of things to try that didn’t make me feel any better, but I have also found some really awesome things that have worked wonders for me, a few of which I am sharing with you today!
It’s important to remember that everyone is different. So take from this what resonates with you, but also try something from the list that’s new to you (’cause that’s how you grow!). The question isn’t ‘what I have to lose?’ but ‘how much do I have to gain?’ (the answer is a lot!)
List Your Goals
It might seem like a no-brainer, but you’d be surprised by how many people don’t have their goals written down. It’s a simple thing that can make a world of difference!
Of course, it’s not enough to just write them down. Once they’re on paper, put them somewhere you’ll see them several times a day like your bathroom mirror, your headboard, locker, desk, anywhere!
Create a Vision Board
Now that you’ve written down some goals, it’s time to choose a few of them to put on your vision board! When I first heard about vision boards, I was pretty skeptical. It seemed a little hokey to believe that putting things on a piece of paper would somehow help make these things a part of your life.
Then I tried it, and let me tell you. . .
Great things happen when you take time to remind yourself of things you are working towards every morning when you wake up and every night before bed.
Make sure you have short term, long term, and in-between goals or things drawn on your vision board.
This is my current vision board:
And yes, that’s a drawing of me at Harry Potter World
on the bottom right corner.
**Want tips on effective goal setting or direction on how to build & get the most out of your vision board? Let me know in the comments! I’d love to write a separate post on this if there is interest.
Since when did negative self-talk become “cool”?! From memes, to commonly used phrases, it seems like talking negatively about yourself is not only widely accepted, but often times, it’s weird to be confident. I, for one, agree with Demi, “what’s wrong with being confident? (whoa, oh, oh)”.
One of the most difficult habits to break is learning to stop apologizing when I’ve done nothing wrong! For a whole day, try to catch yourself unnecessarily apologizing. You’ll be surprised by how often it happens. This may not seem like a big deal, but over time, this is engraining a message in your subconscious suggesting that you are in the wrong. Just another small change that can make a huge difference!
Next to your goals and your vision board that you’re now looking at several times a day (hint, hint) write down a couple positive affirmations to repeat to yourself throughout the day. Here are some examples of positive affirmations that I like to use:
“I LOVE myself!”
“I am productive, focused, and confident!”
“Life loves me and I love being here!”
“I attract supportive people into my life!”
Here’s another hint: be sure to say these OUTLOUD and, in the words of Madame Hooch, “with feeling!”
Be Around Motivating People
Motivational speaker Jim Rohn said, “we are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with.” This quote really resonated with me. Sticking around negative people is a quick way to be brought down to their level.
Being in positive environments will give you space to rise to that level of positivity.
Have you ever hung out with someone for so long, that you started using the same phrases they use? Try to look back on where some of the things you say and do have come from. How many times has someone else influenced you to speak or act a certain way without you even realizing it? This is just one small thing that demonstrates just how true Rohn’s statement really is.
Track Your Progress
Progress is one of the most motivating things in the world. How are you measuring your progress?
When I think of tracking progress, I instantly think about fitness goals. However, tracking your progress is an important part of any goal you set for yourself. How demotivating would it be to work so hard towards something but not know how close you are to accomplishing it? A great way to track the progress of your goals is to make a list of the steps it will take you to accomplish it.
For example, if your goal is to pay off your car by a certain time, things you will need to do to achieve that goal could be not going home early from work, saving money to put towards your car payment by spending less money on junk food, or picking up a side job until it’s paid off.
It really comes down to making sure you’ve created a visible and specific path to your goals.
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